Make Everyday a Funeral

Make everyday a funeral is the worst title I'veever written, but I had to use it anyway
‘Make Everyday a Funeral’ is probably the worst title I have ever written. You can take it how you want, funny, depressing or just all out wrong but it completely sums up how I have been feeling lately.

I lost my uncle last Christmas and I am still having a really hard time with it. It was suicide and I always wish I would have expressed my love and appreciation more while he was alive. There have been a few more suicides recently that have effected me- the one everyone knows about was Robin Williams. With every death it makes me so sad to see everyone tell their favorite stories and memories and talk about the good qualities of the deceased after they are gone.

I want to let everyone I love know that I love and appreciate them before they are gone. That’s why I have the eerie title. I want to remember and take time to say the nice things that are said at a funeral long, long before the funeral. Want to join me?

Ideas of Showing Love and Appreciation:

Share your favorite memories, traits and features of your loved ones. I have tried to make an effort to think of saying these things when I see or talk to my family and friends. I sometimes will write these things in a birthday facebook post or cards. It’s a great idea for when you don’t know what to say!

Take time to spend time with family and friends. I am guilty of letting spending time with people that mean alot to me go by the wayside. I have been trying to take the time to hang out with friends and family and to go see them now. We may not have as much time with people as we would like and we shouldn’t put off the good times.

Show your love. Now. The biggest thing I have tried to take away from the death I have seen lately is that you never know how much time you have with someone. Go and fix any problems you have with friends and family, make up. Take the time to call your mom. Send an email or letter to ask how your loved ones are doing. Just take a few minutes of each day to do something to show your love, and don’t wait.

Why I Love Not Being Pregnant

Things have been a little quiet on the blog because just over a month ago I had my second little one. Unlike last time I am very, very sleep deprived. I didn’t have to wake up to take care of an older child last time and I could actually follow the advice of ‘sleep when the baby sleeps’. This is another reason why I am glad I have chosen to permanently stop having kids. I know someday that will make me sad for short amounts of time here and there when I see other cute babies so I decided to take my own advice and write a list of good things about this change. (See Also: Journal Writing Ideas and Bookmark Printables)

Why I Love Not Being Pregnant

  • Hot Showers. End of story.
  • No more heartburn and eating tums like candy, even though some flavors are delicious.
  • I can see (and shave!) “downstairs” again.
  • Gums don’t bleed every time I brush.
  • Bending over is possible! So is seeing my toes.
  • Less Constipation (TMI I know, sorry)
  • I don’t need Life Alert in case I fall and can’t get up.
  • I could control my own weight, if Oreo cookies weren’t so delicious.
  • My feet and ankles aren’t swollen anymore, not that I could really see them when they were.
  • Bathroom breaks aren’t every 5 minutes and wearing depends is no longer necessary.
  • I can drink (and eat) whatever I would like! Coffee and Straw-ber-rita’s have been teasing me for months!
  • Hugs are no longer awkward. Or are no longer awkward because of me.

I may add more to this list as I think of more reasons I am happy to not be pregnant, or if you leave a comment reminding me of more reasons. If I update this post (or any others I will be sure post about it on Facebook or Twitter!

The Resolve for No New Year's Resolutions

It’s a new year. I know many people are setting new year’s resolutions because I have seen a billion posts about other people’s resolutions. It starts me thinking about making my own New Year’s Resolutions, but every year my real resolution is to not have any New Year’s Resolutions. Or any resolutions at all.

res·o·lu·tion
n. a firm decision to do or not to do something.

I don’t need any firm decisions in my life right now, I need a chance to give myself a break and to not feel guilty about things. I always want to do better but resolving to do something is just going to add stress and guilt to my life and that won’t help me do better. As much as I want to resolve to have a clean house, or be a better wife by making dinner more often I just need to do those things when I can and be happy about doing them when I can.

They may be always changing but I always have goals. I hope that you can try to reach your goals without adding any stress or guilt to your life as well. Make your goal to be happy and healthy and applaud yourself for any little step you take in that direction.

No New Year's Resolutions

I have spent some time this week re-reading some of my own posts about how to be happier. My post with journal writing ideas goes right along with resolutions. As a child (and even later) I would get a new journal or diary and decide I was going to write in it every day. Some times I lasted a day, sometimes two weeks. Once I wrote about each day for almost a year. That took a ton of time writing things like “Nothing interesting happened today” three weeks after the date I was writing about.

With my tips for writing in a journal I said to just move on and not worry about how often you write or about going back and writing about the past. It makes for a nice read when I go back in my diary and see the good things I wrote about. The gap in the timeline never is a worry I am just happy to read the things I did write and I know that when I was writing them it helped that day or week be a happier one. It’s something I can do to improve my happiness but it won’t ever subtract from my happiness because I forgot a day or lost momentum.

The same can go for any resolution you might come up with. If you resolution was to start eating better be happy about making a healthier food choice today. Try again tomorrow. Don’t be hard on yourself if you slip up, every day is a new day to try to start again, and everyday can be a step in the right direction if you make it happen.

My current goals are lofty but every step I make toward them is a good one. I want to be healthier, happier, a better wife, a better mom, a better blogger and have a cleaner house and keep to my saving plan as well as spend more time with my dog. Doing a little to improve in each of those areas when I can will help me get to where I want to be, and I don’t need a resolution to get there.

Here are more of my Life Tips (Most of these posts are just to help me though!)
Journal Writing and Journal Entry Ideas
How to Stop Shopping
Making Better Food Choices